Porn addiction – What is your plan?

“You fail to plan, you are planning to fail”

– Benjamin Franklin

When it all boils down to it, the worst part of porn addiction are the relapses and the way they make you feel.

Even now several years later, I remember very well how I felt afterwards.

The Shame

The guilt

The frustration

The demolished integrity

Every relapse creates a void between what you know that you want to do, and what you actually are doing. resulting in a crushed integrity, and a strong frustration about not being able to be a man of my word, towards myself and others.

Relapsing feels horrible, but it also offers the chance to learn and progress.

Crucial for recovery is to extract the lessons and insights that relapses offer.

If one is relapsing, feeling horrible, but take no actions it is bound to happen again and again.

What proper actions can and should be taken after a relapse?

Well…

A tool that comes in very handy is reverse engineering.

The ONLY way to do that is with brutal honesty and full discloser.

Follow this checklist:

  • Did you have a recovery plan?

If Yes – Did you bother to utilize it?

If no – Set one up!

  • Did you have counterforces in place for your triggers?
  • Did you reach out for your accountability partner?

Did you feel like you deserved to? Because of stress or a frustrating situation for example?

Had you stop doing something that you know is important for your general wellbeing?

What action can you take to avoid the same situation?

The checklist makes a few things clear.

Everyone is responsible for their own recovery.

You can be stuck forever without taking ownership over your recovery.

You should not be alone in this process. Utilise the strength of accountability.

Simply wishing for a change – IS NOT RECOVERY

Wanting to recover – IS NOT RECOVERY

Knowing what actions to take – IS NOT RECOVERY

Fearing for everything you will loose if you don’t recover – IS NOT RECOVERY

To consistently work the above mentioned methods and take actions reactively and proactively – IS RECOVERY

I am not going to sugar coat this. Recovering from porn addiction is the hardest thing I have ever done.

The other side of that coin is that it is also the best thing I have ever done.

With:

  • determination
  • A desire to learn
  • Hard work
  • An open mind
  • Accountability
  • Support

A battle against porn addiction can be won.

“Every battle is won BEFORE it is fought. ”

– Sun Tzu

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